Here I will link to all of my gender-related pages on this site, with brief summaries.

Blog posts

An Introduction to My Nonbinary Gender: I am nonbinary. This post explains the basics of what that means, for me. This is a good place to start if you’re unfamiliar with nonbinaryness as a concept.

They/she Q&A: I use they/she pronouns. This post explains the basics of what that means, for me. This is a good place to start if you’re unfamiliar with people using multiple pronoun sets.

Learning to talk: A poem about the pain and joy of voice training.

Scavenged Metal Collection: ✧Gender✧!

Gender: Desire and Identity: Do you wish things were different, gender-wise? Wish you were a man, or a woman, or neither? But you don’t feel like you are the gender you wish you were? Your feelings are valid, and you’re not alone. I was in the same boat for many years. Come read this post.

Gender Identity, Without Label or Category: Building upon the previous post, gender identity isn’t about adopting a standardized label. It’s about feeling gender from the inside.

Trans Brainworms: Discussing and dismantling the narratives that get into trans people’s heads, before we hatch and understand ourselves. Narratives about why we can’t be trans or we can’t explore or we can’t come out.

Trans Q&A for TDoV: For Trans Day of Visibility (March 31st), I asked people to ask me questions about being trans, and I answered them here. I’m planning to make this an annual thing.

Ritual for Hormones: A ritual to accompany taking my daily hormones, morning and evening. A reminder of the miracle of creation, every day, by the power of science, medicine, and the trans community.

Having fun making a webpage~~! ⟨^v^⟩: Getting in touch with the feeling of being a kid having fun on the internet, in ways I never could when I was young, because I wasn’t myself yet.

Caring about Eggs How do we best care about eggs? How do we manage considerations that point us in opposite directions?

Transition photos

I started estrogen HRT on April 18th, 2023. Every month since then, I’ve been taking photos in a variety of lovely locations to document and celebrate how my appearance changes.

Some Gender Going On Podcast

SGGO 1: Community Approach to Gender: The initial episode of my podcast, Some Gender Going On. This episode is about focusing on community when it comes to understanding gender, rather than systems of classification, such as the medical, scientific, or binary models. I’m planning to make more episodes.

SGGO 2: Expanding the Gender Club: Cis vs. Trans is not a good way to divy up the world. The real lines are more like gender transgression and gender enforcement. And it’s not at all simple how that shakes out for any given person. And it very much can be both.

SGGO 3: On Not Being a Woman: I’ve been seeing myself move in a more feminine direction, more woman-adjacent direction. And it’s scary, I feel like I’m losing something, some core nonbinary part of myself that I can’t name. I’m exploring what that essence of nonbinariness is.

SGGO 4: Seeing Myself: It took me a long time to be comfortable seeing my body, and especially to be comfortable seeing my face. Now I can look forward to seeing my face and know I’m going to like it! But I still don’t feel like I look ‘different’, somehow.

SGGO 5: Against ‘a girl in a boy’s body’: There’s a shorthand summary for describing trans people: A trans girl will be described as “a girl trapped in a boy’s body”. I don’t like it. I don’t the mindset, I don’t like how it introduces the concept of transness to trans people who don’t know that they’re trans.

SGGO 6: Music 1: A review of some of the first songs from my gender playlist, ‘Them’. Songs that have really helped me think about myself, and I’ve listened to them so much I’ve memorized them.

SGGO 7: I’ll Always be Misgendered: The vast majority of strangers don’t have a concept of a person who’s nonbinary. And I fucking hate it.

SGGO 8: Internalized Transphobia: Digust and Evil: When I was young, I internalized the message that gender exploration was wrong and bad and ugly and gross and evil. And I did it anyways. The world’s a lot better now.

SGGO 9: Unshakeable Confidence: Cisnormative and binary-normative people are so intensely confident. They know how gender is, how gender should be. How can we be uncertain, how can we explore, when we’re surrounded and pelted by absolute certainty.

SGGO 10: The Joy of Not Giving a Shit: Over the years, I have reached the point where I can do things that might be considered odd, nonnormative, weird, strange. I don’t give a shit, and I love it. It’s the only way I could possibly be trans.

SGGO 11: A World of Norms: The default, societally, is think of oneself as normal, and to fear what’s abnormal. So how does one live one’s life when one is considered abnormal, and one fears what’s normal?